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Meaning?
You clearly don't understand how trusts work.
Jealous mf'ers and voyeurs. 😉
Reverse everything you just said but put it through the eyes of the one being helped.
The father of one of his friends got him into Briarcrest not the Tuohys.
Yes, he was already really good at football and basketball, and his academics before he moved in with the Tuohys.
He moved in full time with the Tuohys right before his senior season started. He stayed with them off and on before that because he was friends with their daughter
We do all the time.
It’s extremely difficult for the one being helped.
They know they’re loved and have a sense of family. But they also know they aren’t family.
It’s often extremely awkward.
But what’s the alternative? Leaving a kid like Michael to sleep at the laundromat? Or not getting involved at all.
Hopefully, through the difficult times and all the awkwardness… the one being helped will eventually land on his own two feet and be in position to build a family of his own.
If I remember correctly…the movie did suggest that Michael was already at Briarcrest but he was basically homeless.
Thankfully the Tuohys were able to provide him a real home. Tremendous benefit for Michael.
Do the moral of the story is to:
and 3 don’t put them into a conservatorship and call it an adoption
Maybe not. They could have made a mistake that they thought was right at the time.
Maybe their goal the whole time was to just screw the kid over. But do you really believe that?
You certainly don’t adopt a kid at that age.
Maybe not screw the kid over, but get “paid back” for all their hard work helping Michael.
You can adopt at that age. Conservatorship was just completely unnecessary. The judge deserves some blame for not asking questions about it for sure
3. Record all of your conversations with the kid and preserve them as potential evidence in the event he/she later sues you.
Good advice for the kid if your benefactors try to screw you out of some $
There should be a pretty good paper trail on this movie money, so one way or another, we'll see what the truth is there. The verdict on that will inform the parties relative credibility on everything else.
There are plenty of reasons to doubt the credibility of the Tuohys. They’ve already been caught in several lies. Of course Oher being put into a conservatorship when he clearly isn’t incapacitated is also a huge red flag
I’m not accusing…I’m asking. So don’t take it the wrong way.
You believe that the Tuohy’s did a “conserveatorship” to ultimately screw Michael out of money?
Did they enter the conservatorship before or after the book/movie deal money? (I honestly don’t know that answer…but seems relevant)
Do you think it’s reasonable to believe that the Tuohy’s had very little knowledge of the differences between a conservatorship and adopting…and relied completely on the advice of their attorney. (Which is exactly what I would have done. Except I can’t imagine actually adopting a child at that age that didn’t grow up in your family. Exposing yourself to tremendous financial liability)
And it seems like…although I don’t want to make assumptions… that you completely disregard the benefits of the relationship with the Tuohy’s prior to the conservatorship and you believe the Tuohy’s were just helping for some future financial gain?
obviously you hate the tuohys. What do you think of his biological parents?
I believe they did a conservatorship for their own benefit. Whether it started small and their own ambition grew from there I have no idea.
They entered into it a few months after he moved in fall/winter of 2004. Blindside book came out in 2006 and the movie deal was finalized in 2007 shortly after.
No, getting a conservatorship is much more difficult than an adult adoption. It would be especially difficult to get one for Oher who almost certainly did not meet the criteria to even be placed into a conservatorship. You have to be mentally incapacitated to be put into one normally. The court is essentially taking away your right to autonomy. There are stringent guidelines they would need to follow to carry out the conservatorship properly as well. Giving the Tuohys power of attorney would have made more sense if they just wanted to act on his behalf in certain areas while he still retained autonomy and make it easier on themselves.
Their impact on his life is overstated. No doubt having stability for your senior year of high school in the midst of a crazy recruitment was tremendously helpful. Many other people helped him along the way though and ultimately it was his drive that got him through the rough times. Nobody can propel you to that level of success unless you work for it.
Obviously I wish everyone could have a stable home life. Oher says when his mom was sober she worked hard but that she was rarely sober. Addiction is tough. Dad sounds like a deadbeat. Are you saying that since his parents **** that other people are allowed to treat him bad?