Mrs. Chopper and I will be getting through this milestone this week. Will be bittersweet of course. I would expect there will be some onion slicing at the exit. Those of you that have been through it what advice do you have?
At least you’re prepared for “THAT” hug. But sorry to tell you, preparation won’t make much difference. Just let it out!
@chopper , I am sitting here listening to my youngest who is now 45 talking to her mother, just like 4-6 days a week.…things will change but if the foundation is good it's different but good. Biggest thing is for you and your wife to accept the child is now an adult! Best wishes!
Just came across this article. Interested to know what folks think about it.
Overinvolved in your college kid’s life? It’s understandable but not helpful, experts say | CNN
Lots of great points. Helicopter parenting has given way to snowplow parenting and it harms the kids. As soon as they experience failure, they don't know how to deal with it because they haven't been prepared.
"According to a survey by Resume Templates, 26 percent of those ages 18 to 27 brought along a parent to a job interview — and that’s just the beginning of the disturbing findings from the survey, conducted in April among 1,428 U.S.-based respondents who said they had searched for a job in the last year.
“Gen Z has a reputation for lacking the independence, motivation, and real-world knowledge to contribute in the workplace,” the employment resource provider said in a media release….
Of Gen Z’ers who brought their parent(s), 31 percent had a parent accompany them to an in-person interview, while 29 percent had them join a virtual interview.
“For those who had a parent come to an in-person interview, 37 percent say that their parent accompanied them to the office, 26 percent say their parent physically sat in the interview room, and 18 percent say their parent introduced themselves to the manager. Additionally, 7 percent say their parents answered questions.”
Just…..what….the….heck. They appear to be the least capable generation ever raised in America.
One other thing I've learned reading from other parents is that they get FAR more upset about things happening to their kids than the students do. Kids learn to take a lot of stuff in stride (unless they have the over-involved parent) whereas parents seem more likely to involve themselves without waiting to see if their child can resolve it on their own. Lots of parents shocked to find out that UGA won't talk to them and that the only access they have to their child's account is the part where you pay, lol.
I don't know how or exactly when the script flipped but we seem to have gone from the Greatest Generation to the neediest.
can’t imagine my daughter asking me to come along to a job interview lmao
Edit: speaking of parents getting mad at stuff that doesn’t bother their kids have you seen the video of the parent attacking a wrestling ref because he warned his son not to use a dirty move again?
did the son wrestle for Cobra Kai ?
Well I survived the drop off. It was terrible and awesome simultaneously. I wrote her a letter with all the things I wanted to say that I knew I wouldn't be able to get through verbally and tucked it into her make up bag so she'd find it later and thus made the final goodbye short and sweet. House is awfully quiet but on the bright side I have a ton of room in the driveway.
And Go Dawgs
you’ll all make it through. This is all part of being a parent
The letter is a great idea! I bet she makes you proud.
At UGA orientation, they have parents write a letter to their student and it's supposed to be delivered during their first semester. Really seems to be hit or miss. Lots of kids never get it but I agree it's a great idea.
At my baby shower for my first, I got a time capsule container to put things from the first year and to be given at some point in the future. I put her first baby shoes, a bunch of other things, and a letter I wrote. Gave it to her when she turned 18.
Not gonna lie, stole that idea. My dad did that for me when I graduated high school in ‘96. I put a copy of it behind the letter I gave my daughter. Extra tears…sigh.
